Understanding Black Tax and how to avoid it

What is Black Tax?
Black tax is the financial pressure placed on someone who is just beginning to earn, usually from family or close relatives, to constantly give them money, solve problems, pay bills, or act as the “saviour” of everyone, often beyond the person’s capacity.

It usually sounds like:
• “You’re working now, help us.”
• “You’re the hope of the family.”
• “God has blessed you, don’t forget us.”

Every small progress you make, every little breakthrough, every step forward, people are already calculating it. Suddenly, everybody needs help. Urgent bills, emergency upon emergency. Your income has not even stabilised, but you’re already carrying the whole village. Helping family and relative is good, but endless obligation beyond your capacity is a big financial problem.

Why You Must Avoid or Strictly Control Black Tax

1️⃣ It Traps You at Survival Level:
When most of your income goes to emergencies and family needs, you can’t save, invest, or build assets. You remain financially fragile. Money that could have gone into Savings, Skill Acquisitions, A business, Investments and so on, black tax will quietly steals it, always living you with no future capital.

2️⃣ It Creates Dependency and Entitlement, Not Progress:
Constant giving beyond your capacity can stop others from becoming financially responsible. Instead of empowerment, it breeds reliance and entrench poverty. I mean, I’ve seen relatives who refuse to work just giving birth to plenty of children expecting the only so-called breadwinner, who’s just rising to keep shouldering all the responsibility of fathering their own children. Pathetic.

3️⃣ You Can Fall Back into Poverty:
Many people rise financially, then fall back, not because they didn’t earn enough, but because they carried too many people too early. If you try to lift a family out of poverty while you’re just still climbing out yourself, you will all fall back deeper into poverty.

See, if you’re from a poor background, and you’re just beginning to rise financially,
please listen carefully: Avoid black tax. Black tax has buried many destinies.

❇️ Let me be clear: At this stage, you cannot save everyone and still save yourself.

Helping family is good, yes. But destroying your future in the name of obligation is not wisdom. If you are still building:
• Protect your income
• Build savings
• Create stability
• Secure your future first

You don’t break generational povertyby becoming a walking ATM.

This is not an excuse to be wicked, selfish, or abandon family.
• Set boundaries.
• Spend and Give based on BUDGET.
• Help within structure
• Give with limits
• Learn to say “No” and “not now.”

Build yourself first so you can help better later. Because if you collapse financially,
nobody will come and rescue you. This is not wickedness. This is self-preservation.
Rise first. Then lift others.
 
Few years ago , a maternal aunty reached out to me for certain medical operation. She wanted 5million Naira.

The same aunty I begged to pay my Waec , she refused and asked me how many times I came to her house to wash her clothes and what value have I added to her life.

She also said I should tell my Dad that she's not a bank. 😢 . I am not entitled to anybody's money so that's absolutely cool with me but it should be vice versa - dont ask me when you never gave me . ( anyways , that's not the gist )

I agreed to give her the money but I had conditions

" I will support you with 1million naira as a gift - don't pay me back even though you don't deserve it but it's fine. The remaining 4million naira , give me a plot of land in ohafia .

My relatives weren't happy but you think I , Ninnah cares for validation? My late mother always wanted validation - unfortunately, I validate my own self , hopefully I pray God justifies me at the end of my life . 😊

They said I am using somebody's sickness to collect a plot of land from her.

Wicked girl , 😊, I accept . 🙏

But you have cars, houses, lands to sell off ,
Why come take the little a poor girl like me has in the name of sickness and still wants to emotionally blackmail me ?

"Well, Go to the bank my people , pay interest" .

Usually , I don't lend money to relatives and friends . I can gift you 20% of it or more , the one that I know I can let go so we won't quarrel .

Because over the years , I have seen how ' money' break family, friends and relationships. -

"Borrow me , borrow me - I go give you back ; to give back becomes ukraine war - when you ask for it , you become Putin .

They finally called and handed over the land document, I did my search to ensure title and I called the surveyor to go check , then I asked them to fence it .

In one week , I gifted her 1M before the kinsmen , kept the evidence and send the 4M differently for the transaction and attached the receipt, detailed the narrative as " Money for Land Purchase " and all that , then perfected the landed documents.

My uncle , her younger brother and also the witness was frowning his face whilst signing -

Wait oo, Shey na the same people wey I beg to help me when mumcy dey hospital bi diz ? Them say dem no get 5k for Oxygen in 2009 .

The woman still Kpai for Hospital ,
I still beg them make dem help me bury mumcy . Them asked me weda na them kpai my Malè, say why I dey disturb them sef .

The reason she gave me that time was because she just bought a new car and she needed to pay for the freight so she doesn't have money for any burial .

Well, I no vex - no bi she kee my mama afterall .
Na poverty kee my mama . 🤷

But why is my uncle frowning sef ? "Una entitlement graduate from Harvard sha" -
I thought to myself 😊

After few weeks , she went to do her surgery and she Died.

( I have no conclusion to this story ).

You may not like me as a person but if there's one thing you will like about me is this -

- I forgive alot , I am a kind person but I am structured and very principled .

On Psquared Matter ? I can't process that Corporate Framework in my brain -

I Have NO FAMILY and FRIENDS in business .
If I am not doing a Pro-bono ,
Then I am doing Real business ; with a full blown- standard- agreement in place .

Then on PRINCIPLES,

I keep to my words and I expect you to keep yours
If there's anything on earth that will make me fail you , I shall communicate same to you ahead of my breach.

I have friends of 20-35 years , turned to partners .
I hold their money and I invest for them .
My eyes is only on my fee , the one I am entitled to .

I have never broken a promise to anyone, none that I can remember and I say this PUBLICLY.

What I cannot do, I tell you . If I need to refund , I do so immediately withholding 'nothing'.

I have never borrowed money from anyone in this life , I say this PUBLICLY as well .

What I have is enough for me to manage my life or I slash my cloth heavily according to my size ; If e didn't dey , e didnt dey .

I have no reason to be overtly nice to you , lie to you or praise you out of proportion - just for my stomach sake; I try my best to be who I say I am to you.

✍️ As a P00r Man's Child that I am , they left no inheritance for me , except for a name - I have nothing to protect except my words and honor .

@Ninnah NkpOlahUjah Onyinyechi , Samuel

STRUCTURE AND PRINCIPLES.

Goodmorning ,
Distinguished Ladies and gentlemen
 
Few years ago , a maternal aunty reached out to me for certain medical operation. She wanted 5million Naira.

The same aunty I begged to pay my Waec , she refused and asked me how many times I came to her house to wash her clothes and what value have I added to her life.

She also said I should tell my Dad that she's not a bank. 😢 . I am not entitled to anybody's money so that's absolutely cool with me but it should be vice versa - dont ask me when you never gave me . ( anyways , that's not the gist )

I agreed to give her the money but I had conditions

" I will support you with 1million naira as a gift - don't pay me back even though you don't deserve it but it's fine. The remaining 4million naira , give me a plot of land in ohafia .

My relatives weren't happy but you think I , Ninnah cares for validation? My late mother always wanted validation - unfortunately, I validate my own self , hopefully I pray God justifies me at the end of my life . 😊

They said I am using somebody's sickness to collect a plot of land from her.

Wicked girl , 😊, I accept . 🙏

But you have cars, houses, lands to sell off ,
Why come take the little a poor girl like me has in the name of sickness and still wants to emotionally blackmail me ?

"Well, Go to the bank my people , pay interest" .

Usually , I don't lend money to relatives and friends . I can gift you 20% of it or more , the one that I know I can let go so we won't quarrel .

Because over the years , I have seen how ' money' break family, friends and relationships. -

"Borrow me , borrow me - I go give you back ; to give back becomes ukraine war - when you ask for it , you become Putin .

They finally called and handed over the land document, I did my search to ensure title and I called the surveyor to go check , then I asked them to fence it .

In one week , I gifted her 1M before the kinsmen , kept the evidence and send the 4M differently for the transaction and attached the receipt, detailed the narrative as " Money for Land Purchase " and all that , then perfected the landed documents.

My uncle , her younger brother and also the witness was frowning his face whilst signing -

Wait oo, Shey na the same people wey I beg to help me when mumcy dey hospital bi diz ? Them say dem no get 5k for Oxygen in 2009 .

The woman still Kpai for Hospital ,
I still beg them make dem help me bury mumcy . Them asked me weda na them kpai my Malè, say why I dey disturb them sef .

The reason she gave me that time was because she just bought a new car and she needed to pay for the freight so she doesn't have money for any burial .

Well, I no vex - no bi she kee my mama afterall .
Na poverty kee my mama . 🤷

But why is my uncle frowning sef ? "Una entitlement graduate from Harvard sha" -
I thought to myself 😊

After few weeks , she went to do her surgery and she Died.

( I have no conclusion to this story ).

You may not like me as a person but if there's one thing you will like about me is this -

- I forgive alot , I am a kind person but I am structured and very principled .

On Psquared Matter ? I can't process that Corporate Framework in my brain -

I Have NO FAMILY and FRIENDS in business .
If I am not doing a Pro-bono ,
Then I am doing Real business ; with a full blown- standard- agreement in place .

Then on PRINCIPLES,

I keep to my words and I expect you to keep yours
If there's anything on earth that will make me fail you , I shall communicate same to you ahead of my breach.

I have friends of 20-35 years , turned to partners .
I hold their money and I invest for them .
My eyes is only on my fee , the one I am entitled to .

I have never broken a promise to anyone, none that I can remember and I say this PUBLICLY.

What I cannot do, I tell you . If I need to refund , I do so immediately withholding 'nothing'.

I have never borrowed money from anyone in this life , I say this PUBLICLY as well .

What I have is enough for me to manage my life or I slash my cloth heavily according to my size ; If e didn't dey , e didnt dey .

I have no reason to be overtly nice to you , lie to you or praise you out of proportion - just for my stomach sake; I try my best to be who I say I am to you.

✍️ As a P00r Man's Child that I am , they left no inheritance for me , except for a name - I have nothing to protect except my words and honor .

@Ninnah NkpOlahUjah Onyinyechi , Samuel

STRUCTURE AND PRINCIPLES.

Goodmorning ,
Distinguished Ladies and gentlemen
Lessons to learn

Let's do it this way - I won't let you die because of money but I won't also let you die with my money unpaid .( 2.) I wont bring out 5M without factoring it as ' investment' that needs an ROI - I am not dangote , I am still hustling. (3) . I wont let my people blackmail me or say twas because i didnt bring money that made their sister die . Let me show you something on PROPER BUSINESSSTRUCTURE . After 6 years , I sold the land - Got back the 1M gift, got back my capital and made profit on the 5 M. Did I help you ? Yes !. Did I help myself ? Yes . Did I solve the emotional blackmail issue ? Yes cos everyone saw i dashed you 1M . Now, Did you die well ? Na God sabi that part , He's the Almighty .

@Ninnah NkpOlahUjah Onyinyechi , Samuel
 
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